How about a loud, “Hip-hip-hooray!” for messy relationships! No?
When we experience relational stress there comes the temptation to figure things out, to set up boundaries, and to get more wisdom and understanding so we will have better relational skills. None of those is necessarily wrong, but what is most needed because it is most true to our nature is authentic love—love from The Source. We’ve simply been trying to get it where it’s not found.
We are set up for God’s love and what that does to us and through us, particularly in relationships. He is an unending supply of love—love that is patient and kind and generous, and love that doesn’t measure its affection as a strategy to win anyone or anything. God’s love isn’t keeping score and it isn’t self-seeking. It’s a marvel of perfect grace.
If you’re single and struggling in love as I did for many long years, consider resisting the temptation to get smarter as fast as you can about the struggle you’re in, and rest for a time in God’s love for you. Enjoying Him and the way He is toward you will also fashion love for everyone in your life as well. His love keeps life clear! And when you find someone who also knows God’s love, that’s a relationship you’ll treasure in whatever capacity is best. You’ll know because of love.
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I think that also if we have any sense of unworthiness, we will be unable to receive love and therefore unable to truly give love.
ReplyDeleteI think if we disbelieve the gospel, then we have an issue with love. I fairly often have a sense of unworthiness, but I know the gospel and I know God and talk with Him about it. He puts me straight.
ReplyDeleteThinking, digesting, chewing on this post...
ReplyDeleteBoy, that first paragraph is me. Once I stop focusing on the funkiness of the relationships, trying to fix them, and simply abide in the Vine, His love transforms me and the love I have for them astounds even me!
ReplyDeleteIsn't it great that you know what He is like with you? He's really good at drawing us away from the crazy captivity we sometimes find ourselves in. I'm glad.
DeleteRalph...right on time again. God is so good!! Amen?
ReplyDeleteAmen!
DeleteThank you...!!! It's going to be a good day...a Lucky Day... Happy Day Ralph! : )
ReplyDelete"We love because He first loved us". I love the fact that its not just a past event but more importantly a present continuous reality. I can only love someone out of the love i receive Form Him.
ReplyDeleteWell said! I sure like that, Bruce.
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